Tame the Beast

Are words just words, or are they a detrimental weapon in our communication cabinet? Why do we automatically label only the things that we can physically touch as weapons? Society developed a generational deflection saying “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” in an attempt to shield our neurological system from the pain that we feel without physical force.

When we are able to communicate effectively and appropriately our regulatory system and neuro-receptors are flooded with dopamine, which provides a sense of motivation, pleasure and satisfaction. Effective and appropriate communication is a balance of positive speak, and setting personal communication boundaries. The struggle for most of us is figuring out this balance. How do we communicate effectively and appropriately without projecting unnecessary aggression, hurt, pain, and our own insecurities?

Words have the ability to motivate us, move us, inspire us, love us, and heal us … but also have the ability to wound us deeper than any cut made by a knife … and unlike a knife that shows a visible wound; weaponized words leave us with invisible internal wounds. The ability to learn effective and appropriate communication then can only be achieved when we identify our own dysfunctional patterns. How we receive communication and respond create the change required to heal these invisible wounds.

We need to treat our invisible wounding the same way that we treat physical wounds; stop the bleeding or bleed out. I think each and every one of us has both intentionally and unintentionally caused harm with our words, and that is why we need to tame our own beast. There is much to gain from the beauty of pause, think, breathe and then respond. What do you think?

xoxoxo – @scarlettangel777 💋